Halloween is over and for some, with for example loved ones overseas, Christmas preparations have started weeks ago in order to get all their gifts ready and shipped out by the USPS recommended shipping date. For others Christmas shopping means hunting down the deals on Black Friday. If you do like to get an early (er) start to your Christmas planning then here are some suggestions to get your head into the game [putting my thinking hat on NOW] [Read more...]
EFMP Goes Mobile
Seems like government websites are catching on that going mobile is the new way of staying in touch with their customers or visitors and is the closest thing to having an app for smart phones.Â
Militaryhomefronts’ EFMP information has finally gone mobile with mobile site that is [Read more...]
Teeth beware – or how to find a good dentist.
Finding a good dentist at each new duty location has always been a daunting task . For the most part I have done well, for the one time that I didn’t I paid -and still am paying- dearly for it. So when Adrienne Conant commented on one of my blog posts recently I contacted her. After a few emails back and forth she agreed to publish her ‘dental expertise’ for you.
 A brief background, I’m a stay at home mom of a 2 ½ year old son and another son due August 1st. Before my husband and I started a family, I was working in a dental office. I’ve worked in dental offices since I was 15, working my work up the chain. I started as a scrub, just someone who stocked rooms with supplies, cleaned instruments and kept everything clean, then I was a dental assistant, and eventually worked my way through to the front office, and eventually at 22 was an office manager. I’ve worked in 3 different offices, and have worked with many different people in the field of dentistry. I’m telling you this not to toot my own horn or anything like that, but so you know when you read this, these aren’t all “just†my opinion, it’s really how things are and work in a dental office, so you know what to look for in your search for the best dental care.
First of all, the first thing you want to do at a new place is to ask people you meet who their dentist is, do they like them and why. Word of mouth is the BEST advertisement for a dentist, or really any healthcare professional. If you hear the same name more than 2 or 3 times, see if they have a web-site, or a phonebook ad, and see what services they offer. Some dental offices don’t do pediatric dentistry, which is something you may want to know if you have children under the age of 10. So be sure to do your research, the office may have good word of mouth, but it may not be what you’re looking for either.
Second, when you do decide on an office to call have a list of questions you want to ask, for example: Do you accept my insurance? Are you a preferred provider for my insurance (this is important as if affects the amount of money out of pocket for you)? Do you see children under the age of ___? Are my co-pays due at the time of service, or after the insurance makes their payment? How far out does the Doctor usually schedule? How far in advance does the hygienist schedule? Does the Doctor refer out for major work such as extractions or root canals?  A good office will answer your questions without making you feel rushed, or like you’re a nuisance. A good office genuinely cares about the patients, even if you are “interviewing†them on the phone. This is your first impression of the office! If you feel like they are blowing you off at this point, it may be a good idea to keep looking. The front office staff is trained to be a certain way on the phone, they are trained to be warm and friendly regardless of what is going on in the office itself. Now, do not mistake being put on hold for a minute or two as rude J .
Third, when you get to the office, a large part of this is about the front office. These are the people who will coordinate your appointments, your insurance, who will squeeze you into an impossibly busy day because you have a toothache that kept you up all night, they are also the first and last people you will see when you are there. You want them to be friendly, and make eye contact with you when speaking. They need to validate your presence in the office. Another part of this first impression is how the office looks. Is it clean? Is it well kept? If you ever walk into a dental office and your first impression is “ewww. . .this is gross†it’s a pretty good bet the rest of the office and patient rooms are in the same state. 
 Fourth, you finally meet the dentist! Is he friendly? Does he address your concerns? Does he point things out on your x-rays while telling you what treatment you need? Does he take time to explain, in plain terms what is wrong? In regards to treatment, does he give more than one option? Now, let me explain that last question; there is ALWAYS more than 1 treatment option. Any dentist who tells you otherwise, please be wary of. A dentist who offers conservative (least invasive treatment, and usually best for the patient) will always give you an option A, and an option B.  This is important, that you have options. Not only because it is just good practice to give options, but prices will invariably differ between the two options and you may only be able to afford one or the other. You may be more comfortable with one over the other. A good dentist will give you the options, the pros and cons of each option, and will have someone (usually a front office staff) go over the costs of both options with you. Also, a good dentist, and a good front office will not dismiss you feeling something is wrong. If a tooth is bothering you, they work collectively to try and resolve the problem, and they don’t stop until you’re happy.
Fifth, when you find an office that does all of this; that goes above and beyond for you and your family, be sure to recommend them to your friends. Send a Christmas card or a Thank You card if they’ve straightened out a huge insurance mess for you or came in on a weekend or stayed late for your 10 year old that broke his front tooth . Good dentists are hard to find, and good patients are sometimes few and far between. Getting a card or a note that acknowledges the hard work they put in, makes them want to do better, (and just might) get you that privileged appointment time with the doctor/hygienist, or a discount off a product they have etc. . .

Cleaning like in the old days
I recently came across an old little booklet with lots of ‘tips’ on how to clean your home or to make cleaning an easier job. Some tips seemed great or worth trying and with some I was scratching my head or even laughing out loud:
Here are some that might be worth a second look:
- For light cleaning jobs try 1/3 cups of ammonia, 1/3 cup of white vinegar and 1/4 cup of baking soda in a gallon of warm water.
- You can prevent mildew on a shower curtain by soaking the plastic curtain in a saltwater solution before you hang them up.
- Ever had a rust stain on the tub from a shaving cream? Try a small amount of kerosene dabbed on a wash cloth (ok so I chuckled when I saw to use kerosene…)
- Stains in toilets, cups, pitchers, coffee maker…try denture cleaning tablets for several hours or overnight( toilet). Personally, I have been very successful with a pumice stone and scrubbing.
- Make formica countertops shiny with soda water.
- Remove wax on furniture by softening the wax with a hair dryer on ‘hot’ and scrape as much off as you can once the wax has softened.
- To remove rust of wrought iron, wipe it down with an oil based furniture polish.
- Cold weather window cleaning (who does that??
1/2 cup of rubbing alcohol, 1/2 cup of ammonia, 1 cup of white vinegar and 2 tablespoons of cornstarch. - Cleaning screens: A paint roller will remove dust, dirt and lint from wire window screens.
- Keeping tennis shoes white: spray them heavily with starch when they are new.
- If you are not quite done with painting a room, stick the paint brushes in a ziploc bag. They stay great for a few day until you ar. The brushes will stay pliable for a few days until you are ready to continue painting.
- Before you close a paint can up, make a mark on the outside of the paint can to easily see later how much paint you have left.
Here a few suggestions that made me smile:
- Washing paint brushes: A little fabric softener in the final rinse water will keep your paintbrushes soft and pliable.
- ===> Will you put your paintbrushes in your $600 or $700 washer?
- Car passengers who suffer from cold feet and legs in the wintertime should place their feet in a large brown paper bag, and pull it up around their knees.
- ==> Do you all have a mental picture of that?
- Spray PAM on your snow shovel to keep snow from sticking.
- ==> I thought this was funny at first, but this could really make work easier…I’ll try it out next time…well, the kids will anyway.
- Dead skin can be removed by rubbing a bit of Miracle Whip salad dressing into your skin and letting it stand for a moment. Rub vigorously, and the dead skin will quickly come off.
- ==>Whoever tries this please let me know how it turned out?!
- A nightly application of odorless castor oil around your eyes will keep wrinkles away.
- ==> …and your husband too. I heard hemorrhoid creme helps too?
- Lemon juice is the perfect hair shiner for blonds, appl cider vinegar in rinse water is for brunettes.
- ==> again tell me for whomever it works
- Homemade deodorant: Heat the following in a double boiler until a smooth cream forms: equal parts o baking soda, petroleum jelly and talcum powder. Keep it in small jars in the fridge
- ==> hm.
2011 Parents – Teachers – School – Moving
Moving time equals stress time. Everyone is stretched to the limits, especially if it was a bumpy move.
There is so much to take care of: The house, bills, jobs, school…so much to do. Anything concerning the education is done as best as possible but we are not always able to dedicate as much attention to the academic performance as we are used to. Finally! A breather and we are taking a closer look at the situation. Here are some things we try to remember it comes to our kids and their schools.
- We show the same amount of love for your children regardless of their success in school. We show sadness rather than anger when they have trouble at school. This doesn’t mean though, that they are getting out of consequences.
- We expect our children to do their share of the chores at home
- Spend some time each day talking about your day. Dinnertime is a good time to do that, if that doesn’t work for you find any other time that works for you. We usually do ‘hi’/'low’ and that gives us a great place to start and talk.
- Take turns reading to each other every day even if your kids are older. My youngest doesn’t like to read so this is a good way for me to share time with him and get some additional reading time in. With our teenager we watch some shows together.
- We have our kids teach us something they learned in school.
- We encourage our kids to find what they feel passionate about and something that recharges their batteries. We want them to try many different activities as a way of discovering interests and talents. We remind them that they will build their careers around their talents, not around their weaknesses and that trying out a lot of new things lets them find their passion.
- Our kitchen/living room are our common rooms. We prefer to watch TVÂ Â downstairs only, and we have laptop work spaces in our downstairs common rooms as well. It keeps our family together and always talking.
- Only in VERY special circumstances will we bring forgotten homework or lunches to school. Sounds cruel, but they’ll remember the next time!
- Don’t fight with your kids over homework, they need to know that you will love them regardless of their grades or the number of years it takes to complete each grade. (LOL) It is easier said than done as I feel my bloodpressure rising if I see a certain lack in attention.
- We don’t pay our children for good grades and don’t punish for bad grades.
- Especially after a move we take the time to re-discover our child. Kids change, their needs change. When one of my boys acts out, I try to resist the temptation to do time outs right away -because I have learned over the last 11/12 years this is actually his way to shout out for help. Instead, I sit down and we calmly start talking and within a short time I find out what bothers him. Works much better for me!
It hasn’t always been smooth sailing for us, but we don’t want the kids to think that bad grades = bad kids, because that’s really not how it is.
Summer Camp for Military Youth
A few years ago my children participated in Operation Purple , which is a free camp for children with parent(s) who are deployed. They thoroughly enjoyed it and I was happy because I got a 5 day break while my husband was deployed. My kids really never had been to an overnight camp as they generally are so expensive. Operation Purple was a wonderful opportunity for them to spread their wings and spend some time with other children that were in the same shoes as they were, meaning at least one parent was overseas. A lot of parents start shopping around for summer camps, if you are one of them, consider this camp who are offering military youth scholarships in order to participate in this camp.
Please see below for an exciting camp opportunity from American Wanderer for
military youth (11-17 years old) this summer.
American Wanderer Summer Camp ( www.rvcampforkids.com) invites military youth
from across the U.S. to explore our National Parks this summer! Â They offer
unique two-week camp sessions that explore over 34 Parks in Arizona,
Colorado, Idaho, Montana, New Mexico, South Dakota, Utah and Wyoming.
American Wanderer Summer Camp currently has openings available for middle &
high school aged youth (11-17 years old) from all branches of the military
and Coast Guard during the following sessions
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Session 1 (June 22-July 5)
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Session II (July 6-July 19)
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Session III (July 20-August 2)
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Session IV (August 3-16).
Military discounts and scholarships are available.
For more information, to register or inquire about military
discounts/scholarships visit:
http://www.rvcampforkids.com/Scholarships.html or contact the American
Wanderer Camp owners/directors, Lyn & Chris Kimberly at: 203-557-3339 or
email: Lyn@RVCampforKids.com
Military Family/ Pre-Deployment Checklist
I was interested in Megan, after she had posted one of her blog posts on the MilitaryDutyStations Facebook wall. I went to her blog and then to her website and found a wealth of information. The information is structured my favorite way: in bullet points. Though, Megan is Canadian and lives in Canada, separation from a loved one is similar if not the same and therefore her suggestions are just as valid as if she was American.
Megan meant for this blog post to be a pre-deployment checklist, however, as I look through the list I am convinced that checking off and taking care of most of the bullets will help to keep your military family ready for anything at any time – regardless of your spouses deployment.
I am looking forward to more guest posts, but here is her first – enjoy!
When my husband went on his first deployment to Bosnia, many years ago I really wish I had the knowledge, lists and resources I do now! I had no idea about what it would be like, how tough some days would be, what to do to prepare for his departure, what resources were available, what information I needed, etc. I was completely and utterly clueless. It was one of the hardest experiences of my life, next to my mother dying. I was alone, in a strange city and had no family close by. I was also 6 months pregnant and with a 1 year old. I got a horrible flu and ended up in the hospital, the water pipes burst, I had over an hour commute each way to work, I had a class of 36 children and my daughter regressed (not surprisingly, she had to deal with a moody, pregnant mother, absent father and the arrival of a baby with colic). I look back now at that first deployment and can finally laugh (it took at least 5 years before I could really joke about it and mean it) back then I spent a lot of time crying and whining to my best friend. In fact, she is responsible for my sanity today. My blogs, books, column and resources are all created with the goal of strengthening military families and hopefully ensuring their deployment experiences are a little easier because of some of my tips.
Pre – Deployment Checklist
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Get copy of deployment orders, birth certificate and drivers licence of deployed member
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Confirm contact information, an email address, rear party and unit contact information
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Contact Family Support or Readiness Centre
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Attend de-briefings
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Ensure you have up-to-date military family ID card(s) for all eligible family members
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Update contact information for friends and family
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Complete a “Need To Know†information page for the fridge
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Power of Attorney & Will
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Power of guardianship completed
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Location of deeds and mortgage papers
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Car & house insurance documents available
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Marriage Certificate or Common Law Declaration copies
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Create household budget and agree upon it together
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Bill, credit card and car payments organized
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Numbers securely recorded for accounts and credit cards
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Authorization for access to accounts and information
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Pay office information and pay allotments organized
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Organize house maintenance (snow removal, garden, grass cutting,repairs, etc.)
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Health Insurance and information accessible
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Passwords available – computer, internet, etc.
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Create an emergency contact list
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Establish how you are going to get information out to friends and family
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Contact school(s)/teachers – provide timings of deployment and new emergency contact information
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Inform your work
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Update a calendar together with important dates and events & make copies or provide electronic copy for deploying family member too
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Ensure car maintenance is up to date, is scheduled and emergency car kit available
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Ask family or friend to keep a set of house and car keys
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If travelling with children, ensure you have the appropriate documentation (permission to travel, passports, etc.)






