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You are new to the military

Your are brand new to the military and your husband/significant other is…..

….is going through Boot Camp

Kind of scary, because neither of you have any idea what to expect of this new life you are about to enter. The good thing is that at this point both of you know about the same amount of information about the military. Here is a little FYI beforehand… from my (Army) perspective. All the branches are a little different but some things don’t change at all. Your soldier/airmen/sailor/marine is brand new to the military and so are you.

In boot camp your soldier will learn to become a soldier and will be instructed in “the military way”, get in shape and learn to adhere to military protocol. [Read more...]

Top 25 Military Family Blogs


Remember when around May I was bugging everyone to vote for me for the “Top 25 Military Family Blogs”? Yes, pretty much for 4 weeks I sounded like a broken record: “vote for me” or “vote for another military spouse blog”.

Not sure if I ever thanked you for it, and just in case: THANK YOU. I feel blessed an honored that I made it into this group (HELLO, number 17!). Take a look at all our fellow bloggers, visit, follow, like, tweet, say ‘hello’.

Here is the TOP 25 list according to your votes:

Celebrate July 4th

How do you celebrate the 4th of July?

Spending the 4th of July the last few years has changed. We have always had someone deployed and some spouses alone. The deployments have therefore always been front and center. We still celebrated the birthday of this country, to remember what we fight for, and to be thankful that we are still here to celebrate it.

I still enjoy the barbecues, don’t get me wrong, but July 4th is another holiday that reminds me of the fact that there are families that can’t spend the holiday together or are in pain.

With all the noise that comes with July 4th and the happy times we’ve had, there is always a quite side in it for me.

I am sending prayers to all ‘my’ families with family members deployed.

I am sending love to all the families who have lost a hero.

I am sending gods healing powers to the families who care for a wounded warrior.

I am sending strength to the families who are dealing with the complications and difficulties that these deployments have brought.

New Tee’s with Pride

bravo-tango-tees-logoI ‘met’ Tammy over a year ago when our family was on their way to leave Washington State and move to Colorado. For a short time Tammy and I lived only a few miles apart – but we still never managed to meet. Points for trying though! In the meantime she moved away and started a new company that she introduces here:

“Sometimes you don’t know where the path that you are traveling will lead until you get there. Sometimes… all you can do is embrace the journey. This can be particularly true if you are a military spouse attempting to carve out a meaningful career for yourself between moves, deployments and babies.

The path that lead us to create Bravo Tango Tees had a few bumps, but ended up with a wonderful partnership and a great T-shirt company right around the last curve.

Bravo Tango : Becky & Tammy

For us, the beginning of creating a company of our own started with getting an education, working in our respective fields and discovering what we wanted for ourselves. It turned out that what each of us wanted was the opportunity to work at home, focus on our families when we needed to, use our talents to create a quality product as well as support and uplift our community and causes close to our hearts. We also thought it would be awesome to have a closet full of cool t-shirts.

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When we met, we were already veteran military wives, and we had built our own mobile careers and client lists. Becky, as a graphic designer and illustrator, and Tammy as a social media consultant. We worked for a common client for over a year, and when that project came to an end, inspiration struck us during a phone conversation.

While we enjoyed working for clients, we wanted something of our own.

We took stock of our strengths and weaknesses, came up with a simple yet solid business plan, scheduled phone meetings between softball games, doctors appointments, pre-school picnics, homecoming celebrations and dance recitals, and ultimately, we launched a straightforward website that sells a great product that we are so very proud of.

We are excited that our first line of tees includes some great military wife tees, some inspiring American pride tees and some fun motivational tees. We took great care in choosing super soft, quality tees made in America, and our printing team has years of screen printing experience. We don’t want to make ordinary tee-shirts. We want to make shirts that make you feel good when you put them on. We want to make that shirt that you reach for when you know you’re going to have an awesome, inspiring day.

We love tees that make you feel proud to serve, show that you love our great country, get you motivated or make you smile.

We were fortunate that our individual paths crossed at the right time. We could not have started this adventure without each other and without the support of our great military family community. Together we are loving the journey!’


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Military Spouses Get Help With Professional Licensing

When I read this headline I REALLY hoped to read further: MYCAA has been opened to all military spouses. It’s not the case, so I’ll get over being disappointed and read on to see how we, the military spouses, are being helped. The announcement today was in regards to professional licensing, which can really put a licensed professional (think teaching or medical field) in a pickle when PCSing. So, any kind of agreement between states is certainly welcomed. It was mentioned today that an estimated 33 percent of working military spouses, work in fields that require licenses, mostly nursing and teaching. The State Liaison has created a social media forum on Facebook in order to get a first hand account on difficulties in licensing among the various states. Go here to join the discussion  Military Community and Family Policy Facebook Discussion

Today was announced that 16 states have adopted laws, or are close to doing so, to make it easier for military spouses to work in their career fields. The office promoted two approaches to remedy the situation:

  • States to permit licenses by endorsement of the last state license

  • Permission for a temporary license to expedite the spouse’s employment options is granted

Theses States have enacted laws for endorsement of licenses — or those waiting for a governor’s signature — are Arizona, Colorado, Kansas, Montana, North Carolina, New York and Texas. States that allow temporary licenses are Alaska, Florida, Kentucky, Missouri, Ohio, South Carolina and Tennessee. Utah allows nonresident military spouses to use out-of-state licenses, and Virginia allows military spouses who leave the state to re-use the license upon their return.

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FREE Doula Services

Ashley is a doula in training and she posted this great video on Realmilitarywives.tv to inform about this great service called Operation Special Delivery.

Operation Special Delivery (or OSD), provides trained volunteer doulas for pregnant women whose husbands or partners have been severely injured or who have lost their lives due to the current war on terror, or who will be deployed , or unable to attend the birth due to military reasons. The doulas that are volunteering are doing so at a pro bono (free) rate, and are doing so by their own discretion.”

Go to their website to apply, volunteer or sponsor!

Suddenly…I got a job offer

finding workYup, it happened. Today.

I’d like to tell you this story from the beginning…..

All the kids have been in school for a few years now and I still stayed a stay at home mom. I was contemplating to go into the ‘world’ but I am just not made for a ‘regular’  job. You see, I have ‘issues’ – after staying at home for so many years, without or only little education (some college) I contemplated school. Between the fears of not being able ‘to make it’ and others’ remarks of ‘you are too old for school’. I brushed this idea aside. First I got into the world of real estate investing, then social media marketing, finally I was able to combine it and marketed a few properties here and there. Then came the deployment and lots of ‘serious’ professional development went out the window. After the deployment came our PCS to Colorado.Groupon: Get the Best Deal in Your City Today!

After our arrival in Colorado I knew I wanted to get out into the business world. I took a resume writing class on post (very good, BTW), attended job fairs and sent off resumes. It was a total new experience. I didn’t know that I would not even get a ‘Sorry’ from employers, why should they with 600 applicants per position? At the job fairs I met a lot of ‘deer in the headlights’-looks, then who knows maybe I just went to the wrong job fairs?

When I was looking through government job descriptions I realized that I was NOTHING to them as even for some of the lowest position required at least an associates degree. This was a low blow, especially considering that had I started school when I first contemplated it (above paragraph) I’d have my Bachelors Degree by now. 17 years of my military spouse-dom really didn’t mean anything. Volunteering didn’t matter. Mentioning of domestic organizing (as I was recommended to mention on my resume) didn’t matter, activism didn’t matter. Nothing mattered without a degree.

So what was I going to do? MyCAA didn’t apply to me, I didn’t qualify. I decided, I would plug away on my website(s), work on social media and inbound marketing and would connect with other. Furthermore, I noticed that I needed MORE on my resume. By now, you have noticed, that I decided NOT to go back to school. I started the Military to Medicine Program which offers free medical administration training for military spouses. I’ll talk about this program on a different blogpost.

Mid March, we purchased our dream home. Our realtor and I kicked it off. In the endLong story short, I decided that I was going to go for my real estate license and work with her. Since then, a hundred other things went on competing for my attention. Would I quit the Military to Medicine Program? I decided not to quit it, nope, I needed to finish it, and crammed the course. That was done and now the Realtor Course was in first place. I finally seemed to have a plan.

Today I received an offer to work for a company as a project manager and liaison for web development projects. A PAID position. OMG! How could it be that now when I have a plan that I am following, this offer rolls in? I was so stoked and then soooo disappointed at the same time, because I knew I was not going to be able to take the offered job, due to personal reasons.

Why am I telling you this? Because I can and this is my blog! HA. Honestly, though today felt so tremendously good and it was a great ego booster, I had to share. After weeks, months of feeling quite worthless, this opportunity today came up. What a great feeling.

It means that even creating online connections WORK! I had seen this with other spouses, like with armywife101.com, however I never believed that is would/could work it for ME.

Lesson learned:

1. In my next life I’ll get my degree early in life.

2. If you’ve ever experienced a similar situation know this: NEVER give up, something WILL happen. Network, stick with your passion!

Why should I know: EO 13473?

Military Spouse employment EO13473A few days ago I blogged about the long overdue “White House Report On Women”. To recap: The last report was done in the Kennedy Area with Eleonore Roosevelt in charge. Times have changed indeed since then. Being a military wife things can get very tough, when you are trying to fit military life style, family, education and employment under one hat. Kate Ovelman Nelson is a military spouse and has “taken on” Executive Order 13473: Military Spouse Hiring Authority is on Facebook. (“The purpose is to facilitate the entry of Military Spouses into federal service as part of an effort to recruit and retain skilled and experienced spouses.”) Read more EO13473 in the following post, then head over and join her group.


She says: “We are Army and stationed at Fort Stewart, GA. I have worked in the DoD for several years as a School Liaison Officer and recently transitioned back to the classroom side of education. Since we married in 2004, we were here at Stewart then we moved to Fort Irwin, Fort Sam, Fort Sill and now back to Stewart. Lots of PCSing and job changing since 2004!!”

There is a saying that Military Spouses have the toughest jobs. I would have to agree with that. Many people will try to say that we knew what we were getting ourselves into when we married our Active Duty spouses and th

at we made this choice to live a life such as ours. Yes, and yes. But you know what? I wouldn’t change a moment of it, nor do I have any regrets.

As Military Spouses, we make so many sacrifices. We give up our loved ones for months at a time when they are deployed or training. We are required to be both the mother and father when we are temporarily singled. We move and leave friends behind. We shed tears the same way civilians do and many times those tears are shed in the secrecy of our rooms late at night when our babies are tucked in, the dishes are finished, house cleaned, dog walked, coffee made and in many cases our own school work is completed. But there is one area that we as Military Spouses should not have to make sacrifices in and that area is: employmentREI.com Camping Gear

So many of us have higher education degrees, and some even have multiple degrees. We are teachers, nurses, lawyers, retail specialists, accountants and business men and women who made a choice to follow our spouses in their pursuit of maintaining our country’s freedom. Our resumes look atrocious jumping from one job to another due to our mobile lifestyle, but that does not mean that we are less qualified than anyone else.

Finding employment, as we move frequently can pose to be a big problem and each time we are not hired, our hearts and ambition drop a little. I have been married to my Active Duty spouse for seven years. Yes, seven years does seem to be a short time, but when you have PCS’ed four times in seven years, and have changed jobs each time, it really isn’t. Holding two Masters Degrees in education, fully qualified teaching certificates in seven states, awards, letters of recommendations from Colonels and Two-star Generals, you would think that my resume and qualifications would outshine and come to the front when applying for jobs. Not so. I remained unemployed for almost a year after our last PCS which took my enthusiasm for being a working Military Spouse down the drain. I applied for numerous Government Service positions and Non-Appropriated Funds positions including the same position that I had held for four years prior, but to no avail. I started to wonder what I was doing wrong? Was I not putting myself out there? No. Was I not making my resume look appealing? No. Then I learned about an Executive Order that was created by former President Bush and signed into action by President Obama that is supposed to ease employment transitions of Military Spouses.

Executive Order 13473: Military Spouse Hiring Authority

On September 11, 2009, President Obama made the Executive Order 13473: Military Spouse Hiring Authority effective. Under this Executive Order, spouses of Active Duty Military are able to receive non-competitive appointment into federal civil service if they are highly qualified. This allows them to be hired for a position for which they are qualified without having to apply with the public in an open job announcement. The purpose is to facilitate the entry of Military Spouses into federal service as part of an effort to recruit and retain skilled and experienced spouses. It is also in place to help minimize disruptions in military families due to permanent relocations, disability and deaths resulting from active duty service. To achieve this, these provisions authorize the non-competitive appointment of certain military spouses to positions in the competitive service.

Executive Order 13473: This is One Order All Military Spouses Should Follow!

For quite some time, the intent of this Executive Order was not being met. The majority of hiring agencies in the Federal Service were not opting in for this hiring authority. The only positions that this EO applied for are part time and temporary. Upon further discussion with various hiring agencies within the governments it was discovered the majority of positions did not qualify or (more times than not) that the hiring authority was not even aware that such an executive order exists. There are still some positions for which this EO does not apply such as DoDDs teacher positions and some NAF positions.


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Of course this authority is at the discretion of the hiring agency and it does not entitle military spouses to a federal job. This appointing authority does allow for eligible individuals to be considered and selected for Federal jobs; however it does not convey selection priority to eligible spouses. This authority is an additional non-competitive hiring tool which agencies may use to select qualified, eligible individuals.

It should be noted that Executive Order 13473 is different from the Military Spouse Preference (MSP) program which was developed by the Department of Defense (DoD) to help ease the interruption of a spouse’s career when the family must move due to permanent change of station (PCS) orders. MSP gives the military spouse applicant an additional five or 10 points on his or her civil service examination score for certain competitive positions.

When applying for positions under the website: www.armycivilianservice.com you will complete a resume builder where you will list all of your information, previous work experience, references and special skills. You will then be asked to complete a supplemental data form where you will fill out sections based on special skills and qualifications. There is a section that allows you to check several boxes based on your eligibility. There is a box designated for EO 13473. Check that box!!! Again, this does not automatically guarantee you the position, but it puts a flag up to the hiring agency that you are a highly qualified spouse applying for this position and that your resume should be considered at the top of the list.


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Milspouses: Move With Caution!

Move and PCS with caution when alone!As a military spouse, we get accustomed to taking charge of the things that need to be done in order to keep our families up and running. We make sure all doctors appointments are attended, we pay attention to on-time bill payments and when need be, military spouses will arrange AND move the hole family to a new location. Besides the fact that moving a family is a huge undertaking, there are also a few precautions that need to be taken in order to keep the family safe, now that there is only one of you.

Before You Are Packed:

  • Tell only friends your exact moving days.
  • Consider having the post office hold all mail during your move, or have deliveries sent to a unit forwarding address. If you already have a home lined up for your family, avoid having packages or mail sent to the new address until you have actually moved in.
  • If you are moving from an apartment, ask your landlord not to give out your forwarding address.
  • Give the impression that you are not moving alone, that you have support and/or that your neighbors are keeping a very good eye on you and your house.
  • Get to know your new neighborhood before your moving truck arrives — different cities and areas have different risks, so it pays to be prepared.

When Moving Into Your New Home:

  • Don’t tell new neighbors that you are moving in alone, at least not right away. Get to know your neighbors first.
  • Don’t pack valuables such as jewelry or silver with other items; keep them in the trunk of your car.
  • Be aware of where you leave your purse and valuables — someone could pick them up while you aren’t watching. Besides, for a few days there will be such a mess in your house, that having a special place for your purse and keys will be a good idea.
  • Maybe you were able to enlist help from friends to help you move in. Not only will this ease your work load but it will calm your nerves and make you feel safe.

Getting settled

  • If necessary change all your locks immediately.
  • Check all other possible entrances, such as windows or sliding glass doors, to make sure safety precautions are taken. (bolts, wooden pecks, do window locks work etc…)
  • Attach inexpensive paper blinds to windows in order to protect your privacy from new nosy neighbors.
  • Because it is often necessary to have service people in to connect telephones, cable, gas and electricity, invite a friend over when service people are scheduled so you aren’t alone. And never tell a service person you live by yourself.

If you have more suggestions, I would love to hear them. Simply add them in the comment field below.

Wanted: Better attitude.

Better Attitude neededIn my very first post I listed the 10 biggest mistakes people make when they are moving. The list was topped by number one mistake “Having the wrong attitude”. Sometimes having the right attitude is easier said than done. Maybe you are moving to a place that your really don’t like  or you think you won’t like. Does the next move mean you are moving away from family? Are you resenting the orders to move overseas? There are certainly a lot of combination of events that would cause one to have a stinky attitude. I know, I ‘ve had it. So much has been thrown at our family before that staying cheerful about it becomes hard at times. Good Friends certainly help you get through it.

What is it that makes it so hard for us to pack up at times? It certainly is the multitude of events that are accumulating but first and foremost it is that we are  losing our security system and then step with a leap of faith into uncertainty.

When you are about to move you will give up …Your home, the city you lived in and your friends. This loss of security adds stress to our lives.

  • Counteract this by taking time for yourself by getting your nails done or exercise, or maybe simply take nap, perhaps a bubble bath?- treat yourself to some help with the duties you have maybe a baby sitter or house help. Power down, so that you can fully power on again!
  • Prioritize instead of trying to do everything at once, identify what’s most important
  • Have lists, that you can check off and therefore get a sense of accomplishment
  • Catch yourself when you are getting negative. Awareness will help you recoup your positive attitude help you de-stress
  • Give yourself permission to be emotional. Find a safe place for anger like a pillow to thrash or a comfortable place to allow yourself to have a good cry if you feel like it. I have burst into tears in the strangest places before…. Like at the dentist of all places! How embarrassing, however, it is what it is and I felt better afterward, and no -  I am not ashamed.
  • Simply call a friend to talk

Please remember that we, the military spouses, play an important role in keeping our families strong and together. Take care of yourself!